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Money Marriage Problems and How to Avoid Them
Let's talk about some common marriage money problems and how to solve them before they occur.
Money might not be the most romantic topic, but it's a big part of life – especially in marriage. Arguments about money are like hail damage – you know it’s going to hail at some point, but it’s always unexpected when it happens, and the damage those little things make can be substantial. In fact, studies show that money troubles are a big reason why some marriages end up in splitsville. But fear not! With a little bit of planning and some heart-to-heart conversations, you can avoid the hail and have a happier, stronger marriage.
Typical Money Arguments
- Spending Spats: Imagine one person likes saving money for a rainy day, while the other can't resist a shopping spree. Different spending styles can lead to disagreements, and no one wants a shopping bag full of arguments.
- Fair Share Fights: Picture this: one partner feels like they're carrying most of the financial load, while the other is taking it easy. This can create a lot of tension and a whole lot of finger-pointing.
- Debt Drama: Sometimes, debt from the past can creep into your present and cause issues. If one person brings a mountain of debt to the marriage, it can lead to stress and strain on your relationship.
- Goal Gaps: You might dream of owning a cozy home while your partner dreams of globetrotting. When your financial goals don't match up, it can feel like you're headed in different directions.
- Trust Troubles: Secrets are no fun, especially when it comes to money. Hidden debts or secret spending can shake the trust in your marriage, and trust is like the glue that holds it all together.
- Windfall Woes: Imagine winning the lottery – sounds great, right? But if you don't agree on how to use that money, it can lead to more trouble than you'd expect.
How to Have Money Chats Before Marriage
- Friendly Chats, Not Fights: Start with gentle conversations about money. Talk about your money memories, fears, and hopes. Remember, it's not about blaming; it's about understanding each other.
- Dreams & Other Shiny Things: Sit down and share your financial goals. Talk about what's important to each of you – whether it's buying a home, paying off debt, or taking that dream vacation.
- Budget Buddies: Create a budget together. List your monthly expenses, savings goals, and even those little treats you enjoy. Having a clear plan can help prevent misunderstandings.
- Team Debt Management: If either of you has debts, don't hide them. Instead, make a plan together to tackle them. Teamwork makes the debt disappear faster!
- Trust Talk: Promise to be open about your money situations. No secrets, just honesty. It might feel scary at first, but it's a big step towards building trust.
- Windfall Wiseness: Imagine a windfall – now talk about what you'd do with it. Plan how you'll spend, save, and invest that money. Having a plan prevents surprises.
Building a Stronger Marriage, One Money Chat at a Time
Money might try to sneak into your marriage and cause trouble, but with a little preparation and a lot of communication, you can weather the storms together. Remember, you're a team, and tackling money issues together can make your relationship even stronger. So, don't let money be the bad guy – let it be the thing that brings you closer, helps you plan your dreams, and creates a future full of happiness together.
Kirsten Knoll Longnecker started her career writing for Hallmark Cards, then moved into advertising copywriting, content strategy, and marketing. A digital marketing and brand strategy executive, Kirsten’s calling is transforming visionary ideas into compelling messaging. But her battery really recharges by helping create functional, productive team cultures and promoting DE&I. As SVP of Marketing for Plinqit, Kirsten oversees the team that delivers on lead generation, PR, social media, content marketing, and events management.